YOUR New Year’s resolution is to get married, but you haven’t got a mate in sight. What to do?
Start by setting your goal and selecting a date for your wedding, says former corporate trainer Aggie Jordan. Then go looking for your life partner.
In her new book, “The Marriage Plan: How to Meet and Marry Your Soul Mate in a Year,” Jordan advises women to stop playing games and be honest about wanting to tie the knot – quickly.
“Your soul mate is a person who accepts you as you are and honors you as you are,” she told The Post. “You’ve got to be honest with yourself and with others if you want to have a successful marriage.”
Jordan says the plan worked for her. She married her soul mate seven weeks after she me෴t him at the a𓆏ge of 37, soon after setting her goal to get married in a year.
Their marriage is still going strong after 25 years, and she and her husba🌸nd have indoctrinated other couples into their program through seminars they give throughout the country.
Jordan admits the 13-step plan outlined in her book isn’t for everyone. Women over 25 who’ve dated around and learned about themselves are the best candidates for the formula, she says.
“You have to know what you want,” she says.
A🔴fter setting the goal to get married and writing down the date, Jordan advises women (or men) to draw up a profile of an ideal mate based on the values that they deem essential in a life partner.
“Once we fall in love, we’re just hooked,” she says. “If we haven’t decided what kind of person shares our values we can get into a marriage that really does not work.”
Then you have to tell 𝄹your friends your plan. For game-playing serial-da༺ters, this sudden dose of frankness could be a little shocking.
“You have to convince yourself that 97 percent of people do get married,” she says. “So there’s nothing wrong with wanting to get married.”
And then, when you do meet the right guy, you’ve got to be honest with him, too, and tell him that you hope to be hitched in a year’s time.
“You don’t want to carry on a relationship where a guy isn’t willing to say, ‘Yeah, I’m ready for that,'” she says.
Until you’ve made a commitment to tie the knot, she says, hold off on sex with your soul mate.
“Then you really want to get to know that person before you jump in the sack with him,” Jordan says.