Experts say that if your sex life is less than 🃏sizzling, try cleaning up your bedroom.
“S🏅tudies show that . A messy and disorganized space can cause stress, which is not good for our sex life,” sex educator Portia Brow꧅n explained to .
“You may find yourself thinking, ‘Why haven’t I put away that laಌundry?’ instead of focusing on pleasure,” she said.
Cam Fraser, a men’s sex coach, told the paper that the bedroom should be “like a li𒀰ttle sanctuary,” free from any distraction, messes or stresses.
This way, you and your partner can feel relaxed and ready to be in🤪timate.
How would someone create their sexual sanctꦫuary? As Fraser puts it, take five minutes to declutter before initiating sex.
“if you’ve got dirty clothes on the bed or the washing has🍸 to be put aw🐲ay, at least put everything in a cupboard, close its door and make the bed” — and don’t bring your long to-do list into bed.
Experts also told the outlet that there could be anot🌜her, surprising reason that your sex life may be suffering — too much cuddling.
If one person is a cuddler at all times, but their counterpart is not,🅰 it can le⭕ad to issues, they said.
The non-cuddler can start to feel smothered. If your partner pulls 🧸back from physical affection, including sex, it can lead to feeling more disconnected.
“They end up on this merry-go-round of ♍one person pulling back to try to widen th😼e distance and the other trying to shrink the distance,” Natasha Silverman, a sex and relationships therapist for Relate explained to the outlet.
“It’s a ♈really unhealthy cycle for both people and it can feel very emotionally damaging for the person who needs more connection.”
To avoid turning off your partner, as🎀k them, “Is this OK? Do you like🍸 this?” before you initiate the cuddles.
If you notice that your desire to cuddle is causing tension, take a 🎀step𝐆 back and let your partner pursue you.
Silverman noted: “The way we initiate affection is often replicated i🌜n the way we initiate sex. So if you can nail this when it comes to cuddles, you can break the cycle when it comes to sex as well.”
